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Dinner in the desert with Neal Stephenson and Adeo Ressi — prelude to Mars

PC Forum 2004: Neal Stephenson, and Adeo Ressi's ambush

Jonathan Hare invented the Quantum Privacy Network and wrote this record. Berkeley 1987, Stanford GSB 1992; founder or principal at Evolve Software, Consilient, Resilient Network Systems and Quantum Privacy LLC. Nine patent filings; the foundational patent granted May 2025 with 2016 priority. This is his account, published with its sources so it can be checked and corrected.
ContextMarch 2004

PC Forum, the year CNET acquired it — the dinner organized around Esther Dyson's circle.

Sought in advance, in writingNeal StephensonJonathan Hare, brought by George Dyson.
The ambushAdeo RessiRecognized Stephenson, joined the table, would not stop about Mars.
The documentationDoug MerrittThe friend whose emails document the whole arc.
The necessary conditionGeorge DysonStephenson's close friend; the reason he was in the room.
How Jonathan Hare is connected to this

A dated email campaign to meet a favorite author, the hour that followed, and a table polled on Mars by Elon Musk's college roommate — in March 2004, when it sounded crazy.

The episode is bracketed by primary correspondence on both sides, which is why it carries documentation most dinner stories cannot.

Why it is in this record

Most dinner stories are recollection. This one is bracketed by dated correspondence before and after the event — the record's preferred kind of story — and it preserves a moment when private Mars colonization was still the eccentric rambling of a persistent guest.

The claim

At a 2004 conference dinner, Hare finally met Hare he had campaigned for in writing — and a persistent guest polled the table on traveling to Mars, three years before anyone believed it. The meeting is documented in dated email; the comic timing is the point.

In his own words → S-116In his own words → S-120In his own words → S-114
L1 · SummaryThe graphRapid understanding — third person, forwardable
L2 · EpisodeThe storyYou are here — his story, in his voice
L3 · SourceIn his own wordsThe verbatim account — immutable, with its research context

The trail exists so that people who were there can reconstruct their own memories, recognize what they helped incubate, and add to or correct the record — or forward the few pages that belong to someone they know.

In short
01

The Stephenson meeting was campaigned for in writing and documented in dated email (S-116).

02

Ressi's Mars monologue is corroborated at web grade by the Moscow ICBM history that founded SpaceX.

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The comic timing — 2004, four years before Falcon 1 — is preserved as the story's point.

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Esther Dyson's circle is the network that made the table.

Developed

How it happened

01

The campaign, in writing

I wanted to meet Neal Stephenson badly enough to put it in a business email. Before PC Forum 2004 I sent Doug Merritt the attendee list with my targets — audit firms, regulated industries, VCs with itchy trigger fingers — and then the real ask: if you know Hare Neal Stephenson, that would be awesome! (Useless for business, but he's one of my favorite authors.) Doug's reply put him among his favorites too. The whole exchange survives, dated March 2004, which is why this episode carries a documented grade other dinner stories cannot.

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Dry as the Gobi

It worked. Stephenson — who famously avoids publicity and rarely attends tech conferences — was there because George Dyson, a close friend of his and Esther's older brother, had brought him. At the dinner organized around Esther's circle I got the hour I had asked the network for. My after-action report to Doug stands as the record: good one-on-one time with Neal Stephenson — his humor is dry as the Gobi desert, and he is hilarious in person. Doug's verdict closed the thread: PC Forum was worth it, if only for Neal Stephenson.

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The ambush

Then Adeo Ressi arrived. He did not actually know Neal — he recognized him and came over — and he ended up completely dominating the conversation: his plans to buy a rocket from the Russians with his college roommate, who turned out to be Elon Musk, and then a poll of the table, guest by guest, on how important it was that humans travel to Mars. The public record corroborates the background: Ressi and Musk, Penn roommates, had been to Moscow in 2001 and 2002 to buy refurbished ICBMs, and the Russians' pricing sent Musk home to found SpaceX instead. In March 2004 — four years before Falcon 1 reached orbit — none of us knew we were hearing history. We thought we were being ambushed by a persistent dinner guest. Both things were true.

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What the record keeps

The record keeps this episode for two reasons. The small one is the comedy — a table of technologists being made to state, one by one, their position on Mars. The larger one is the pattern the whole record argues: the ideas that sound maddest at dinner are the ones worth writing down, and the network that put a publicity-averse author, a rocket obsessive, and a compliance-infrastructure founder at one table was Esther Dyson's — the same connector whose one-line disciplines appear throughout this ledger.

Restated

What it comes to

A documented 2004 dinner: Hare sought in writing and won, and the Mars ambush that turned out to be history arriving early.

Connected

Where this sits

Episodes are building blocks. The same material appears in more than one where it belongs in more than one, and every claim traces back to a primary source.

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